I’m not sure that I had ever consciously acknowledged that I loved myself in the past. Then, a few years ago, I experienced bullying in the workplace. It affected me so deeply that my behaviour changed significantly and I realised I really, really disliked the person that I had become, and yet I felt powerless to change.
I was so busy trying to solve the external issues in my life that I forgot to take care of myself – physically, mentally and spiritually. I allowed my shadow side to dominate.
So, what’s different now? Well, firstly, I reached out and asked for help. I accepted that I didn’t need to be that shadow version of myself, and acknowledged that I had the ability to change, and rediscover my authentic self. And you know what? I liked the person I found buried under all of those negative emotions!
The more I accepted and appreciated myself, the more I was able to let love, joy and happiness into my life. I now love myself just the way I am, unconditionally.
Do you have days when you’re really hard on yourself, the proverbial beating yourself up? Maybe you don’t even like yourself right now. Many people believe that something needs to happen before they can be liked and loveable – lose weight, earn a big salary, drive the right car - the list goes on. Love doesn’t depend on any of this. It starts by accepting and loving every part of you. What better time to start than right here, right now?
So, instead of focusing on what you want in your perfect life, try making a list of all your amazing qualities and achievements instead. Make every day a celebration of you!
"Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you."
Steve Maraboli, keynote speaker, author & behavioural psychologist
This is one of a series of articles by Nicki Eyre about the impact of bullying. Nicki Eyre is a Transformational Coach based in Harrogate covering Harrogate, Leeds and York offering coaching programmes for businesses and individuals to increase self-awareness and emotional resilience. She supports people struggling to cope with bullying in the workplace, and to help them move on.